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24Feb/100

Tips for Average Guys Dating Beautiful Women

Can you believe that she accepted a date with you?  Dating beautiful women can be a challenge because men put them on a pedestal.

Dating beautiful women is a real ego-booster to most men.  They not only make you feel good about yourself, but they increase your status in the eyes of other men.  Ironically, they also increase your desirability in the eyes of other women too!

Highly attractive women have a lot of opportunities to date rich, powerful, and attractive men.  As a result, as a group, they tend to develop some bad habits that make them less desirable as long term partners.  For instance, they are likely to be vain, high maintenance, and manipulative.

If you happen to be dating beautiful women and aren’t very wealthy or particularly attractive, you have some challenges to deal with.  Here’s some advice about how to handle dating beautiful women.

1.)    Be different.  When every man is fawning over a woman, they begin to look alike to her.  You stand out by being different.

2.)    Treat her badly.  If every man is treating her like a goddess, there is nothing you can do to differentiate yourself.  But if you ignore her, act unaffected by her good looks, and avoid looking lustful, she is likely to want to pursue you.  You have become the guy who didn’t knock himself out for her – and that’s attractive to her.

3.)    Ignore her.  When you see a beautiful woman with her plain sidekick (and she will have one), focus in on her friend.  The beautiful woman will get insanely jealous because she can’t stand any other female getting attention (hence, her plain friend) and she will begin to pursue you.  This is how you start dating beautiful women.

4.)    Tease her.  Most men who want to date a particularly beautiful woman will suck up with complements.  Instead, take the route of teasing her.  Point out her flaws in a lighthearted way.  That way, she’ll want to work to get you.

5.)    See her as a complex woman.  Most men dating beautiful women look at them as pretty packages.  Go deeper.  Talk about her hobbies and interests.  Make her comfortable by talking about the things which engage her mind.

6.)    Wait to call her.  If you get her number, don’t call the next day.  Wait a few days to call her.  She expects you to be panting for her and will respect you more if you don’t seem desperate.

7.)    Don’t push for sex.  Okay, the ultimate reason for dating beautiful women is because you are sexually attracted to her.  But, she knows that every guy is hot to get her into bed.  But “playing hard to get,” you pique her interest in you.

Dating beautiful women is not for the faint of heart.  But, even if you don’t have the wealth of Bill Gates or the power of Henry Kissinger, you may find that treating an extremely attractive woman with some distance may be the ultimate aphrodisiac.

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21Feb/100

Dating Latin Women Can Be Extra Sexy

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Are you interested in Latin women?  Dating a Latina requires you to develop a certain cultural sensitivity.

First of all, you should realize that the world south of the American border is a very big place.  A woman from Brazil is likely to have different cultural traditions than a woman of Mexican heritage.

Think about it from a European standpoint.  Europe is much smaller geographically from Latin America, but the regional differences are stark.  You would expect a woman from Russia to have different expectations than a woman from Italy, who in turn would be different from a British woman.  Latin America is no different.

Get to know Latin American culture, geography and politics.  Know the difference between Uruguay and Paraguay.  It also helps if you make an attempt to learn Spanish or Portuguese.

But, don’t think that every Latina speaks the same kind of Spanish.  In Mexico, a burrito is a food with beans and rice.  In Argentina, it is a little donkey.

If you are interested in Latin women, dating customs may be somewhat different.  Latin women are, by and large, Catholic, and may be more traditional and conservative than their white counterparts.

Latin women dating are more likely to take their Catholic faith seriously than white Catholic women.  That means, they take the Vatican’s dictates about birth control and other sexual matters quite seriously.

If you are dating a Latina woman, you need to put on your dancing shoes.  The Latin American culture is very open to all kinds of dancing, and she will expect you to be able to tear up the floor.

Latin culture is very romantic.  You will be expected to romance the Latin woman you are dating.  Bring her flowers, pepper her with endearments, and wine and dine her.  Put some effort into the relationship and she will reciprocate.

Latinas place strong emphasis on their families.  It is not unusual for your girlfriend to be closer to a second cousin than you are to your brother.  The extended family has strong roots in the Latin culture, so you will need to expand what your definition of family is.

A Latina may also have more traditional ideas than her white sisters about what men and women’s roles in the family are. They have been raised in a macho culture.  Even if they say they want to break this mold, many Latin women dating white men subconsciously expect their dates to fall into this pattern.

If you are with a Latin woman, dating leads to courtship, and courtship leads to marriage.  The courtship of a Latin woman involves paying attention to many traditional norms.  For instance, a woman of Mexican heritage may expect her man to walk on the street side of the sidewalk when escorting her in order to protect her from the traffic.  As you get to know your Latina girlfriend, you will learn the types of things she expects from you.

If you are going to pursue Latin women, dating becomes a multicultural experience.  Embrace the richness and variety of the Latin American culture.

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19Feb/100

Women on Dating What Makes for a Perfect Guy

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Men spend a lot of time trying to figure out what women want.  Often, women won’t come right out and tell you what she needs.  Instead, she sends out coy signals which she expects you to interpret.  So, here I’m going to be straight with you.  This is women on dating – what makes for a perfect boyfriend?

When talking to each other, women on dating say that it is important for a boyfriend to stick up for her.  While she doesn’t want to be smothered, a woman does like to be slightly protected.  One way you demonstrate this is to stick up for her when someone challenges her.

Another thing women on dating talk about is whether a guy knows how to cheer her up.  Women are moody (you already knew that) and often fall into funks.  A man who knows how to return a woman to the sunny disposition that she wants to project is a godsend.

When talking about the men in their lives, women say that they like their guys to be affectionate in public.  This doesn’t mean pawing at them.  But, giving her a hug when you meet, holding her hand, and slipping your arm around her shoulders when she is with her friends are all physical signs that she belongs to you.

One thing most women say they wish their boyfriends did more of is dance.  Many women are quite uninhibited on the dance floor and they want their guys to share this passion.  Unfortunately, many men shy away from this pursuit because they feel like they have two left feet.  But your girlfriend doesn’t care that you are not the smoothest man on the floor.  What she cares about is that you are out there with her.

Dancing is a great way to get a woman primed to go to bed with you as well.  When you demonstrate your moves on the floor, she is likely to welcome you into her bedroom.

Another thing, say women on dating, is that you should call more often.  Call her for no reason.  Call to say “I miss you.”  Call and let her chat.  Your picking up the phone lets her know that you think about her even when she isn’t around.

To that end, be the one who says “I love you.”  Women are often willing to say it earlier in the relationship than men are.  Also, when guys love a woman, they express it with actions.  Some bring women gifts.  Others are affectionate.  But a woman needs to hear those three little words.

Another thing women on dating say is that they like it when you are nice to your mom and female relatives.  Even if they are not looking at marriage or a long term relationship, women like to know that you would be a good husband.

Finally, one of the things you can do to really capture a woman’s heart is to – occasionally – watch a chick flick.  She probably watches football with you from time to time.  You can reciprocate by watching a romantic comedy with her.  Know that doing this a couple of times a year is sufficient.  That’s four hours out of your life.  She’s worth it.

So that is what women on dating say they want.

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18Feb/100

Find that Special Someone Online?

If you’re single then you’ve no doubt heard that online dating is one of the best ways to meet a potential new romantic partner.  Here are a few internet dating tips to help you start out.

The first internet dating tip I can offer is to find an online dating service that suits your dating goals.  Different online dating services cater to the varying needs of different people.  For example, some cater to singles looking for a serious long term relationship or even marriage.  Others are geared towards more flirtatious or casual internet dating.  Determine what you’re looking for from your dating experience and then take a trial with the dating service that suits.

Once you’ve found the right online dating service you’ll want to set up a profile.  The second suggestion in my list of internet dating tips relates to completing your profile.

Always ensure you are careful not to divulge any personal information that isn’t absolutely necessary.  Primarily you want to communicate with honesty the things you like, dislike, and what you are specifically seeking from your date. Online dating can be a great experience but it can also be soured when you waste yours and other people’s time pretending to be someone you’re not.  The only way to find the right partner is to be honest about who you are.

There are millions of singles registered across many internet dating services, so here’s the tip: there’s no need to pretend – there will be many people interested in the real you. Once you’re in contact with a potential date, maintain your honesty.

Being honest simply entails being yourself, but also be prepared.  The third in my list of internet dating tips is the idea to keep a list of questions handy that can help you quickly determine if the person is as their profile suggests.  Ask direct questions to find out a little about their likes and dislikes.  Ask broad questions to learn more about their life and previous relationships.  A good ice breaker is to ask about their experiences with online dating – doing so can be quite informative about the other person.  Their answer may even give you some additional internet dating tips on what to avoid.

For every answer you receive volunteer one of your own.  This way your potential date can see you’re not merely questioning them, but are openly sharing.  (Yes, this is your fourth internet dating tip).

With many on line dating services you may find someone to go on a date with very quickly. If things do move quickly because you really click with someone then that is fantastic, but no list of internet dating tips would be complete without this one:  proceed with your online dating interactions slowly. The internet is a great vehicle for remaining anonymous for as long as you can – maintaining a little mystery can help build interest in the other persons mind.  It also helps to protect you should you find that the person you are speaking to really isn’t the type of person you initially thought they were.

Patience is one of the best internet dating tips you’ll ever get.

Take your time and you will find that the benefits of chatting with and flirting with someone for a longer period of time will make your date all the more exciting and successful when you finally meet in real life. By taking things slowly, you will also give yourself time to interact with the person on many occasions.  This will allow you time to learn more about the person, which can help you to determine if they are consistent and honest.  The more you can interact before you meet, the more you will get a “feel” for who they really are.

You should also remember that whilst on line dating may seem like a game, it is not a game.  The sixth in our list of internet dating tips is this: remember that you are interacting with real people with real hearts.  Just as you would not want to be lied to in real life and ultimately have your heart broken, so too should you be careful to remain honest and not lead your potential date on.

Be honest with your interactions; be honest with your profile.  Keep as much mystery about your personal details as you can, but share as much information that doesn’t personally identify you as you can. Take your time to get to know your date and, when finally you meet, there will be no surprises.

The final suggestion in our short list of the best internet dating tips is this: above all else aim to enjoy the online dating experience.  Have fun.  On line dating should be a healthy, enjoyable experience for all.

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14Feb/100

Computer Dating Services Aren’t What They Used To Be

If you’re searching for a “computer dating service” then the chances are good that you’re a single man or woman who is interested in finding an internet based dating service.  If so, you’re in luck because you’ll find plenty of information on this website about online dating.

However, if you found your way here because you searched for “computer dating services” you may be interested to learn that computer dating services are not strictly the same as online dating services.  Yes, some people use the term “computer dating services” in reference to “online dating services”, but the truth is computer dating services actually predate the internet.

Whilst the first online dating service was born in 1995, the first computer dating service was born way back in 1957. Whereas now single men and women all over the world can simply jump on the internet and search for a prospective partner to chat with in real time, the original computer dating services worked from more of a paper-based, manual process.

When computer dating services first began more than 50 years ago, single men and women would approach real world dating agencies (there was no internet back then!).  They would complete a series of forms with information about themselves, which was essentially yesteryear’s version of creating an online profile.  The dating agency would take the forms and translate the information into a format that could be input into the early computer matchmaking programs, usually via a card reader.  The earliest of these was an IBM computer, which would read the cards and compare the information to find a match. Once a match was found the computer had done its job.  The process then went back into human hands and the dating agency would broker contact between the two single people.

Though it may seem an archaic way of dating, computer dating services operated in a way that is very similar to the way online dating works today.  Sure, modern technology has removed the need for forms and replaced card readers with web browsers, but the dating agency is still involved and, whilst the process is more sophisticated and automated, the objective remains exactly the same – to match profiles of likeminded individuals for the purpose of finding a suitable person to date.

Perhaps the biggest different between the computer dating services of decades past and online dating services of today is acceptance.  Thanks to the internet, online dating has become socially acceptable and no longer an embarrassing activity to participate in and talk about.  Millions of single men and women of all shapes, sizes and belief systems are active members of literally thousands of online dating services and are happy to tell you about it.  And of course this is fortunate, because loneliness should not be something anyone has to continue experiencing when there are many likeminded single individuals out there wanting to meet new friends or partners.

If you’re single and searching, try an online dating service.  Most offer free trials and the ability to browse personal ads without divulging any of your personal information or details.  It won’t take you long to find a service you feel comfortable to try a membership with.  Within minutes you could be chatting to your soul mate.  You live in a lucky time where computer dating services are not what they used to be.

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